I’ve met a real lover my age, but I don’t want to stop sexually abusing “the patriarchy” who deserves it while I earn

DEAR DEIDRE: I DON’T want to give up this life of luxury with my sugar daddy – but am addicted to the great sex I’m having with a new lover. I am a 28-year-old woman and have been seeing an older man for the last couple of years. We met on a dating site for sugar daddies and sugar babies. Apart from the sex, we get on brilliantly. Actually, it’s a complete disaster between the sheets. He isn’t very well endowed and his bedroom skills are non-existent. He doesn’t have any imagination and sometimes struggles to get an erection. MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE DEIDRE’S STORIES James becomes impatient waiting for Adah to tell Dave DEAR DEIDRE I’m tortured by thoughts my wife cheated with World of Warcraft buddy Either that, or he is too tired to make love with me and genuinely prefers a quick kiss and cuddle before he falls asleep. He is 58. On the plus side, he is very generous and is always treating me to designer shoes, clothes, jewellery and handbags. Not a week goes by that we don’t try out the latest “it” hotel or restaurant. We have city breaks abroad, complete with shopping trips, where he loves seeing me try on outfits. But on a recent girls’ night out, I met a guy at a nightclub and danced most of the night away with him. We ended up having sex in the club toilets. Then we swapped numbers at the end of the night, and have been meeting up regularly ever since. He is 31 and so good in bed. I am now starting to develop feelings for him and think he feels the same. This hot guy works as a personal trainer, so really takes care of his appearance. But financially, he is never going to be able to treat me to hotel stays or designer handbags. I know realistically I can’t have them both. I don’t know what to do. Most read in The Sun GIMME MAURA Love Island’s Maura snogs Joey Essex at award bash before leaving in same taxi THE RISH LIST PM to appoint ‘government of all the talents’ – here’s who’s in and who’s out STAR GONE Beloved actor & comedian Leslie Jordan dead at 67 after ‘medical emergency crash’ RADIO HOST DEAD Radio DJ, 55, dies while on-air as tributes pour in for presenter NOT SO ROSIE Helen Flanagan is embracing single life after split from Scott Sinclair FAIR PRICE Inside Katie Price’s Essex home as fiance Carl Woods sells house for £475k DEIDRE SAYS: Continuing with them both is unsettling you. Your sugar daddy makes you feel special, but you know what you like in the bedroom and you are not going to get it from him. A glitzy lifestyle and expensive presents are no substitute for true love. The guy from the club sounds right up your street. You are loving the sex and are developing feelings for him. Do not run from one man to the next. You are 28 and you don’t need to be cared for. But you might need to have a spell on your own. Leave your sugar daddy because he’s not right for you. You can still see your lover but stay independent for now. My support pack, Torn Between Two Men, will help you to think this through. Get in touch with Deidre Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays. Send an email to deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page.